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Considering Toilet Training?
Hopefully, you have been directed to this page by your key person, now you are considering starting toilet training with your child.
At Babblebrooke, our first priority is to ensure that your child is ready to toilet train and that we do not begin a stage in their development where we are setting them up to fail.
It is important for you before you begin, to consider your approach to toilet training and we hope to help you do this by helping you to understand some of the basic information about the toilet training process.
Children control their bladder and bowels when they are physically ready and have the awareness and want to be dry and clean. This involves biological development that cannot necessarily be encouraged, such as the production of hormones which send signals to the brain, telling the child it is full. The child then has to learn what these signals feel like and what actions they need to undertake to avoid having accidents. This generally involves lots of trial and error!
This also means that every child is very different and it is important you do not compare your child to other children within the nursery, family and friends or even their siblings!
Some 'fun' facts about toilet training:
most children can control their bowels before their bladder
by the age of 1, most babies have stopped bowel movements through the night
by the age of two, some children will be dry during the day, but this is still quite early
by the age of three, 9 out of 10 children are dry most days – even then, all children have the odd accident, especially when they're excited, upset or absorbed in something else
by the age of four, most children are reliably dry (NHS Choices, 2019)
It usually takes a little longer to learn to stay dry throughout the night. Although most children learn this between the ages of three and five, it is estimated that a quarter of three-year-olds and one in six five-year-olds will wet the bed.
How do I know my child is ready?
There are many signs that your child will show you if they are ready to toilet train such as:
they know when they've got a wet or dirty nappy
they get to know when they're passing urine and may tell you they're doing it
the gap between wetting is at least an hour (if it's less, potty training may fail and at the very least will be extremely hard work for you)
they know when they need to wee and may say so in advance
Potty training is usually fastest if your child is at the last stage before you start the training. If you start earlier, be prepared for a lot of accidents as your child learns.
Speak with your child’s key person to help you decide if your child is ready for toilet training.
Starting to Potty Train…
Ensure you dress your child appropriately. Dressing your child in the appropriate clothes is the first step to helping them toilet train successfully. Loose, elasticated trousers/shorts/skirts are best so that your child or yourself and quickly get them onto the toilet/potty. Ensure that when attending nursery you pack PLENTY of spare clothes in their bags…. Pants, bottoms, tops and socks! These will go home with you at the end of your child’s session.
Leave the potty where they can see it, or access the toilet quickly. Leaving the potty where your child can see it or help them know where the toilet is and what it is, is a great thing to introduce before they may show other signs of being ready. It sometimes helps to let your child see you use the toilet (rest assured that we do not role model this at nursery!)
Don’t push it! If your child has a regular bowel movement, at the same times each day or they can tell you they need to wee, it is good to suggest they go then. Let your child’s key person know these times so we can do the same at nursery. However if they get at all upset by the prospect, it is best not to push the issue and try again at a later date, as we will not force a child to use the toilet or potty at nursery if they do not want to.
Celebrate, don’t criticise mistakes! It is important that the process is as stress free for your child and that you are conscious of celebrating every success and not berating them on the mistakes. Mop up the mess and wait for the next time without a fuss, so that they don’t feel anxious and worried and therefore are more likely to be successful next time.
Avoid given them sweets as reward, as this can cause more problems than it can solve. By using lot's of positive reinforcement, direction and highlighting to them that they are dry and no longer using nappies or pull ups will be sufficient reward in itself.
Remember, we are in this together! We want to help your child become toilet trained as much as you do, it is important to us that your child is happy, comfortable and confident whilst they are with us… plus a few less nappies to change wouldn’t hurt any of us!
At nursery, all the team are well versed with the trials of changing wet clothes and we understand the frustrations of both the parents and children when taking on the toilet training task. Each day a member of the staff team undertakes the job role of aiding all the children toileting and will encourage and take your child to the toilet 5 times each session as a minimum. This will all be recorded on our toileting chart, along with what your child has done and if they have had an accident.
So keep in mind, that we are in this together, we will encourage your child to use the toilet when they are with us, keep dialogue open with your child’s key person on the progress made, praise your child when they are successful and help them when they are not.
We can do this together!
We hope you find this information has been helpful and if you believe your child is ready for toileting training based on the information you have read, please speak with your child's key person (feel free to leave a message for them to contact you) and we can work together to ensure a smooth and enjoyable process for your child and family.
Below are some books, further advice and support and our toilet training policy to ensure you are fully prepared.
Books to help introduce toilet training to your child:
Pirate Pete’s Potty/ Princess Polly’s Potty: A ladybird Potty Training book by Andrea Pinnington
I want my potty! (Little Princess) by Tony Ross
Even Firefighters Go to the Potty: A Potty-training lift the flap book by Wendy Wax
I can’t, I won’t! by Tracey J Vessillo and Mike Motz
Further help and advice: